Eggplant Avenger

stfuconservatives:

(also known as “Cool pro-life story, bros!”)

• 7 murders
• 17 attempted murders
• 52 bombings
• 180 arsons
• 89 invasions
• 1,211 incidents of vandalism
• 1,341 trespasses
• 100 acid attacks
• 655 anthrax threats
• 146 cases of assault and battery
• 375 death threats
• 3 kidnappings
• 96 burglaries
• 480 cases of stalking

One in five clinics experiences blockades, invasions, arsons, bombings, chemical attacks, stalking, gunfire, physical assaults, threats of bombs, death or arson.

(source: This Common Secret, which cites the Feminist Majority Foundation for these statistics)

isabelthespy:

eggplantavenger:

isabelthespy:

[me babbling]

but you know, quinceañeras ask their damas to also pay for their dresses. so i guess it’s not that weird for me, but still pisses me off. the other day i was going though all the dama dresses i wore/bought in those years, and yes, they are ugly and expensive and will never wear again and i resent those friends for making me do that.

this is sort of a different thing (but maybe in a similar sphere?) but — i’m a special combination of privileged enough and super spacey and clueless and not-quite-with-the-earth enough that i haven’t experienced a ton of class-related culture-clash awareness moments in my life. one of the few i remember is in ninth grade i was having lunch with this girl mostly because we were both new and both awkward and both had the same lunch period, and i mentioned how i’d never been to a bar or bat mitzvah probably because at bar/bat mitzvah age i.e. 7th/8th grade i’d been in a christian school. this girl immediately started telling me how lucky i was and how she’d been to [some very large number] and needed to buy a new dress for each of them.

and one thing that has always been true of me since i was a wee little girl is i fucking hate other people telling me what to wear (tears were shed trying to get my mom to let me wear pants to her second wedding and the compromise was i had to get contacts) and anything that smacks of similar pressures/assumptions/requirements/etc., also at the time (sort of now but with ups and downs over the years) i really fucking hated shopping, and dresses, and anyway my automatic response was “i mean i don’t think you really NEEDED a new one each time.”

and she was like “no no you don’t understand i NEEDED a new one each time.”

and then i was just like, damn, if i had gone to fifty parties in a year even my sometimes-very-conscious-of-these-things-bless-her-marxist-heart-and-bourgeois-upbringing mama would not have bought me fifty new dresses!

the end.

my mom was never happy about me being a dama. she practically wanted to kill me once.

i guess i should explain what a quinceañera is to readers.

it’s a coming of age party that happens at 15 and you have a court of friends (like bridesmaids and groomsmen) who wear matching dresses and have an escort who have to rent tuxes and we all learn to waltz and then a surprise dance and all these weird rituals like getting a heel and giving away your doll.

but it is seriously ridiculous that at age 15 you are forced to buy dresses to be part of this event. and of course you want to be a dama because all your other friends are and for a young latina girl, that’s where the party is at. that’s where everything happens. and if you’re not asked to be a dama you dont have friends and arent cool enough and i have too many feelings about this event. very similar to your feelings about weddings. 

for mine i had a party and a dress. no court no synchronized dancing and no stressful planning. it was awesome.

isabelthespy:

like, it is a culturally accepted or even expected thing, for some (many???) people, to be like, “i’m getting married, so now i expect you to pay money for a dress you will wear maybe twice ever if you’re lucky.” like, what? WHAT? HOW IS THAT A REASONABLE THING TO DO? that is just so weird to me! i keep saying judgy things about the practice and then deleting them, because i always feel like an asshole about what gross feelings i get at the very word “wedding” and anyway the point isn’t whether bridesmaids dresses are a bad idea or not. it is just how completely baffling i find this practice and how super alien and weird i feel when i think about how many people would think I’M the weird one for not wanting to be like “yep sure here’s $80 [how much do fancy dresses cost??? i haven’t bought any since high school???] on a piece of clothing i don’t particularly like” no matter how much my hypothetical friend loves her hypothetical partner.

but you know, quinceañeras ask their damas to also pay for their dresses. so i guess it’s not that weird for me, but still pisses me off. the other day i was going though all the dama dresses i wore/bought in those years, and yes, they are ugly and expensive and will never wear again and i resent those friends for making me do that.

why why why why would you want to cancel such an amazing book????

lebanesepoppyseed:

I know for a fact that Cameron Diaz identifies with the Latin@ side of her heritage and wishes to bring that into roles more. In fact, I wish they would cast all these Latino actors they write as another race-Zoe Saldana as black, Cameron Diaz as white, Harry Shum Jr., as Asian-and show them for their true identities as Latinos, too. Hyphens are there for a reason.

Yeah, the “Hey there are white like you!” part was hella problematic. I’m pretty sure we all already know what while for the most part we’ll still experience discrimination, people who are on the fringes, are minorities, or are oppressed get points if they assimilate. This isn’t new to us. For some, it is easier than others. The point isn’t whether or not Latinos can or will assimilate, but that society needs to accept us for all of our diversity and history and background. We are not a race, or one culture.

And, as much as I want to see more representations of White Latinos as White Latinos, I would HATE for them to start using them instead of more “ethnic” indigenous, African-descendant, etc Latinos so they don’t have to tell our stories and narratives and can just stick to the easier, more American-friendly white faces, Anglo narratives. Santana from Glee and Carla from Scrubs are the only major Afro-Latinas playing Afro-Latinas I can remember seeing on TV, and I still have qualms with how their “blackness” was portrayed.

but this is if you identify a race along with your latino culture

i dont

im not white-latina or afro-latina
im just latina 
so im not sure where i would see myself represented in this

but other than that, yes, this is what i was trying to tell jon the other day

when i was trying to make my top 15 hollywood latinas i had a hard time trying to figure out who was ~latina since many of them are not read or presented as such, like Diaz and Alexis Bledel, even if they identify.  

inksplotched:

My response being: FUCK THAT.

THEY CANT TELL ME WHAT TO DO!

OXFORD COMMA 4 LYFE~~

one more thing to procrastinate with